Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Introverts Vs Extroverts

Introverts usually get a bad rap from extroverts. They are often defined in a negative way: shy, lacking in confidence and social skills, withdrawn, etc. Extroverts often can't understand why someone would happily decline an invitation to a party so they can stay at home on their own.

Never has there been an article i read which comes across explaining what i've always wanted to express but couldn't word it down properly. Upon completion of reading this post , i hope you will understand my kind much better.

Extroverts gains energy from interacting with others, which is why they love going to parties. Put an extrovert in an empty house, and chances are that he will be itching to get out and make contact with others fairly quickly.
Introverts, on the other hand, would feel extremely comfortable spending time on their own, because they gain energy from being alone and reflecting, and expend energy when interacting.

Suffice to say that we are the exact polar opposites of each other. I respect the choices of extroverts (ETs) wanting to hang out more often, so i hope the same respect can be shown to introverts(ITs). Exerting yourselves to get an IT to participate is just being mean to the other party if he chooses not to be participative.

One activity that's designed to torture introverts, while providing a spotlight for the extroverts, is karaoke. ... I sat with my fellow introverts and hoped that I could get through the session simply by singing through along during some of the choruses.

Hell yea, what the heack is with Karaoke. Beg as you must for me to participate in one, i will never compromise to put myself in a situation which is awkward to both me and the ETs. I was once cheated to enter with a group of friends before. It was pure torture from the 18th level of hell. I never kept in contact those friends anymore.

Things were going well until one of the ETs felt that they needed to hear an IT solo.

Obviously, some ITs would reject the offer if they aren't feeling up to it, to which ETs will with sadistic glee use quotes like

"Don't be such spoil sports!"
"Come on! Just this once we'll like to hear you do it!"

i say to you, F*CK YOU! i don't usually endorse using foul language in my entries, but that is how pissed i am with incessant annoyances coming from ETs. LEAVE US BE WHEN WE FEEL LIKE WE WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE.

After a suitable period of time, I excused myself and made to take my leave. Almost immediately, one of the other ITs stood up and announced that she had to go too.

We both exhaled loudly as soon as we were out of earshot.

I salute the author for even forebearing with the whole karaoke shit. I would just walk out despite losing friends in the process. Who needs them anyway. Coming out of the karaoke is just like being released from a torture prison except that it's not much a prison to me because i am not bounded by the shackles called friendship. Sure i do give face sometimes and if it goes beyond my annoyance threshold i'm off.

I wouldn't describe myself as being shy or socially inept; far from it. Still, i do feel decidedly uncomfortable in certain social settings. I don't do large parties very well. Over the years, i have become quite adept at faking small talk with strangers, but it's about as pleasurable as a root canal without anesthetics.

*nods head in agreement*
i wholeheartedly support what is said here. And yes, most often than not i am faking a face when mingling with strangers.

I once went to a party with an ET friend. As soon as we were through the host's front door, he was off. He spent the entire evening working the room, talking to different people and having a ball. I, on the other hand, found a free chair around a table and sat there for the entire evening, listening to the extroverts who came and went.

i wouldn't consider myself that much of an IT in this case, because i do mingle around a bit. To which after that i would love to adjourn somewhere to spend some time just sitting around and chilling.

I would rather stay at home with a good book.

Exactly. What's better than having to read a book peacefully or for my case just work on my drawings.

I respect who or what you are. So would you do the same for me?

All citations taken from Monday 12 April 2010 Star paper, "Party poopers" by Mary Schneider. Credit goes to her marvelous article.


  1. eyyy kai..
    never knew you're thaaaaat extreme punya kind of IT laa..sensed a bit of it in you before..but seriously??? to ini level kaa?? o.O

    but really..should thank your post this time..will learn to uhh..not force summa my IT friends too much next time..it's actually torturous..sobs i never knewwww..

  2. wen @
    ya sadly i quite extreme one. orz

    at least now you know to leave your ITs alone :P

  3. @.@
    I'll make a mind note not to ask you to karaoke! lol~ not like i wanna go any more... went like three four times... the last few times was =.=lll no mood any more..
    Then again, thank you very very VEEEERY much for attending my party!! @.@ I'm really sorry if it bored or annoyed you! Hope it didn't :3 You know i can be freaking blunt sometimes to notice tiny things, but I'm trying my best!!
    Perhaps I consider myself the in-between? (IT and ET i mean ^^; )once I went out with a couple of friends(someone you know lol) and two hours later I regretted doing so.. but i tried my best to be polite till the end but I think they noticed the edge in my speech...feel so darn stupid... =.=

  4. Coco@

    Lol chill, i'm alright attending meet-ups and parties and the likes. Just that got very big grudge against outings that end up with Karaoke which i'll promptly leave with no face give. Your party was fun :3 i got to see how an ojou-sama lived. xDD

  5. for the last time Kai~ Ojou-sama dewa nai su~!! That's kelly, not me *head-table*
    by the way, i hav a really bad news: mom made it very clear that she dont want any guy come to my house for the airbrush T.T I've told her before i really dont mind sharing with you but i think her mind came up with something else... *curse* but i guess it's ok if you come with ilina since she haven't buy her airbrush and i dont think she wanna buy one for herself... mom said duwan 1 guy but din say duwan 1 guy n 1 gal lol....

  6. lol understand how your mother feel la. anyways put in ur car boot bring to college lo :P kekeke can do in college.

  7. The uncle said if not careful the oil will flow into the air tank and will spoil.. and vision dont have guarantee for that *dammit*
    If not mistaken there will be five piece of asg, yes?(which means 1 piece for two weeks?) maybe the 1st few you can come over... then later c how la... I'll convince ilina to only get the colors.. lol~ she was darn excited when she saw the kinsun demo vids...
    Oh! I'm confirm getting FF13 XD (exchange for doing a little favor for dad and birthday) then again i want prince of persia as well (partially due to the unlockable assassin's creed outfit *grin*)
    aaaanndd~~ sorry for turning this place into a chat box =.=lll

  8. oi i got chatbox for this reason lol.

    aih see how la if need to then i really have to get one of those blardy airbrushes. I'm not looking forward to mixed media sigh.

  9. Yeng dou kai pao.

    I enjoyed this post a lot. I have to agree ETs tend to get their energy from others. For me though, I find that I have both ET and IT tendencies and this is what I surmise:

    As much as I try to participate in a lot of ET type events, I actually deeply enjoy IT-time as well. However, knowing that IT can be achieved at any possible time of the day (not hard to camp in the room) whereas ET involves other people's efforts, I usually give in to ET and realize I have a lot of time for IT anyway =). That's what I think. While I agree to your statement on ET's not understanding IT's, IT's tend not to understand that ET's need time alone as well.

    Have a good day!

  10. omggg the great tarnos has spoken! words of wisdom indeed. m(_ _)m

  11. Lollerskates. Words of wisdom from kai the master do not outdo me =)

  12. hello... hapi blogging... have a nice day! just visiting here....

  13. Just read this today, well i'm a bit like tarnos but he is obviously the more ET type. I think I'm the super IT type, because I don't like big parties. But I like karaoke wor.. so what makes me?

    Who am I? I'm spiderman.

    After reading your post, I learnt to not force people to do solo performance if they don't feel like it. Great post!

    I like the abbreviations ET and IT. ET reminds me of the ET movie by steven spielberg, in this case an alien.. to me those people who like parties are aliens, so ET suits them well :) on the other hand IT reminds me of programming and stuff.. normally people who like IT are those that are less social, like me, wahahaha so IT really suits the theme.

  14. keng leh the abbrevations. i purposely one mou